What you Focus on Expands

I have always known about having a good attitude, positive thinking, creating your own happiness etc. It is abundantly clear however that whatever we focus on grows and grows. Just look around at the people you know. We all know people who complain about everything from the weather to the person in the car next to them out of habit more than anything. What about the people who always focus on the good around them? They are the ones who seem to glide effortlessly through life, experiencing things that come along as a wonder of life. It is amazing when you see the difference from focusing on the negative to the positive, I am living proof. When I was a teenager, and into my early twenties, I saw the world as a place that did things to me. Anytime anything happened I saw it as a problem, another issue to overcome, or someone being stupid, but never my fault. I got very tired of always being tired, drained by my outlook on life. I came to the conclusion; on my own I really did not like me. I did not like the people I was hanging around, my co-workers, or my neighbors. For the first time in my life I saw a pattern. I was focused on the attitudes that brought me to those, or brought those to me that mirrored my life outlook! I had to change.

Once I started refocusing my energy to find the good in everything, no matter what, guess what happened? Bad stuff still found me! The difference was I found the lesson, the goodness, in almost each and everything that happened. My "friends" at the time started to distance themselves from me because I had "changed". I was no longer one of them. A few of those friends however noticed the transition and started refocusing at the same time I did. We are all best of friends today.

We did the complaint free world exercise at work last year. This is where you get the rubber bracelet from http://www.acomplaintfreeworld.org/ and attempt to get through three weeks without complaining. It was not easy but I finally did it! Every time you complain you must move the bracelet to the other wrist and your clock starts over. If you want to humble yourself, or just test yourself I highly recommend this. It is a lot of fun when you do it in a group, or in your family.

There is a lot of negativity in our world. I choose not to participate. This does not mean I am not aware of all that is going on, I just adjust my filter when it reaches me and keep what I choose is good for me and those around me. Reverend Mary, a mentor and insightful person said to me recently, "When people complain about everything going wrong, the economy, their health, the boss etc. They are right." You are right too. What are you expanding in your life?

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